When kids go entitled
In this post, I will be using initials T, K, and M for the people that are involved. I will say that all are now adults and were adults in the story. K doesn’t have much of a story here.
When M had their kids, they were normal, K with a disability. Then M lost their kids due to a mental health issue. The State had said that if M went to get the mental health treatment that was needed then they would loose the kids.
After the loss of their kids, their life began to change. They began to try to work again and slowly their life began to become as normal as it could be. Then one day the phone rang, “What are you doing on Saturday?” their family member who had M’s kids. When told nothing, “Good. Be at the airport on Saturday. T is coming to live with you.” Click.
No info on why, no info on for how long. M lived in a one bedroom apartment and now it was being thrown into chaos.
A few days later, T arrived. They were told the rules including ‘no fooling around with boys’. less than a week later, they were breaking the rules.
When a two bedroom came available, they moved. The rule breaking continued. Then the straw that broke the camel’s back.
M was going to school on line and got a message from T, that they were looking for work. Then a post on social media “Nothing to do, who wants to party at my house.”
M went in the room and said no party and it was time to move out. T and M got in an argument and T was forced to move.
A week later T was allowed to stay for a few days. As T moved out they said “Ever raise your voice to me again and I will break your f****ing jaw” M told them to leave and never come back.
T tried to make trouble for M but it was able to be countered with the truth. The last contact was about a month ago -T tried to claim to want to repair the relationship but did it with lies. M said that they needed to learn to tell the truth first and T got mad saying that M wasn’t wanting a relationship.
My question -
Was M right for not wanting to have a person who starts a friendship with lies in their life?
With M being a survivor of domestic violence - do you agree with kicking T out when the rules got broken and then the threat of violence?